Is it possible for Sangomas or Ancestors to lie? I was married to a very wonderful man with a wonderful family. I was a loved makoti and I loved them just as much.
My sister in law then had a daughter. I and my husband were unemployed then and struggling a bit to make ends meet but we also wished to have a child of our own but financially we were far from being ready.
No one was working in that household so when my sister in law fell pregnant while in school it meant that now our fear of having a baby because we were unemployed was now projected on us. I had to take care of the baby while my sister in law was at school, my mother in law was pretty old.
My husband and I were both graduates and we met at varsity, so I was married far from home but it didn't feel like it because they treated me absolutely well. Anyway I was the baby's care giver because we would sometimes sleep with the baby so that sister in law could study.
When the baby was out of formula and diapers my husband had to make a plan and I fortunately come from a family that could send me an allowance when they could so I used it to buy us food.
My sister in law then failed her Matric, it turns out when she would say she is going to cross night studying with her friends she would actually be sleeping at her boyfriends. I found out about that when she failed her Matric and I confronted her and she insulted me. I kept quiet and didn't even tell my husband because I didn't want to cause tension.
The following year she refused to go back to school and said she's going job hunting. She left the baby behind and went to live with a man at hostel far from home. This time my husband found out and told his mom that I can't continue carrying for the baby while the mother is gallavanting.
So the mother cared for the baby but she was struggling financially and otherwise but I'd help because I couldn't bare watching her struggle . I got a job and paid for the child to go to crèche so my mother in law can atleast rest during the day.
My sister in law's child got hit by a car and passed away at the crèche's gate. Sis in law came back home and accused me of killing her child. It became very sour in the house and even mother in law turned against me.
My husband got a job too about 6 months after me. Unfortunately he got the job far from home so he would only come home twice a month. On the the second and last weekends of the month. They started saying we sacrificed the baby so we could be successful.
We then got a stand and started building. The sister in law started swearing at me every chance she got and even said that she consulted and the Sangoma told her everything.
Apparently the Sangoma told her that I and my husband sacrificed the baby for our own success. It got worse when I bought myself a car after finding out I am pregnant she went crazy and goes around saying horrible things about us.
I even had to move into our house before it was completely finished because I would find Weird ashy things in the yard that looks like muti.
I have never went to any Sangoma to consult in my life, I've never planned for the child to die the way she did and most of all I was just trying to help.
How can I prove my innocence to them? I've asked her to tell the Sangoma to send death my way if ever I am responsible for the child's death. I regret ever trying to help and wish I had kept my help to myself.
I raised that child and I loved her like my own and I am also still struggling to deal with her death. I am now struggling to enjoy being a mother because of everything that's happening. I have been suffering emotionally and I don't know how i could prove my innocence to them.
Why did the Sangoma lie so much? What's in it for him? He has caused so much hate over something he knows very well that it was made up.
I am even thinking of packing my things and going back home to my family and ending this marriage because I am emotionally exhausted.
I forgot to mention that now my sister in law is sick and the fingers are still pointing at me. But the man she lived with at the hostel was said to have been HIV positive and unfortunately he passed away and she is still blaming this on me and witchcraft.
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